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What do you have to be grateful for?

An easy way to forgive yourself for past mistakes is to focus on gratitude. Ask yourself what you have to be grateful for. The problem? It’s far easier to look at what we don’t have rather than what we do have.

Our minds have been almost pre-programmed by society to emulate the haves rather than the have-nots.

But, we have far more than we understand. The problem is that we only compare what we have in our lives using the status quo of our past and the people around us. If we’ve always had clean running water, why would be grateful for that? But, you and I know just how little of the world has clean running water.

But it’s not just about clean running water. It’s about everything around us. We’re surrounded by things that we have to be grateful for. We can be grateful for the fact that we’re six feet above ground, because we could certainly cease to exist or die at any moment. But in this moment, we’re alive. Why not be grateful for it?

We can be grateful for our reason and our intellect, the ability to read and write, speak a language, see or hear, and a million other things. Once you start identifying the things you have to be grateful for, and focus on that rather than what you don’t have, the mind moves from a state of lack to a state of abundance.

Write out all the things you have to be grateful for, no matter how small. It’s an easy way to move past some of the mistakes that we have trouble forgiving ourselves for.

No matter how bad the situation might be, we have to be grateful for what we have rather than what we don’t.

Relax, breathe, and let go

Sometimes, you just need to relax, breathe, and let go.

Don’t take everything so seriously. The thing to remember is that, whatever it is that you’ve been through or are going through, millions of others have been through or are going through right now. And, millions of others will continue to go through it in the future.

Saying that doesn’t make it feel any easier. But, it should send a powerful message that our problems only seem big because they’re our problems. Our mistakes only seem monumental because they’re our mistakes. When a friend comes to you with the same problem, what do you tell them? You tell them it’s going to be okay and they’ll recover, that it’s not that big of a deal.

Well, why can’t we take the same advice we give to others? How come, when it has to do with us, it seems like it’s the end of the world? Well, let me tell you right now that it’s not. Relax, breathe, and learn to let go. Give it to God. Let go of it.

It’s far harder to hold on to pain, anger, or resentment, than it is to just let go, to love, and to forgive. And, forgiving yourself is the most important type of forgiveness. No matter what happened, it’s going to be okay. There’s a grand design to everything, even if we can’t see the meaning at that very moment.

If you look back at some of your big mistakes 5 or 10 years ago, how important do they seem today? Or, maybe those mistakes actually helped you. Maybe they helped guide you in a better direction in life. Remember, it’s okay. Let go. Breathe. And don’t be afraid to forgive yourself for past mistakes.

Just be sure to learn and grow from those mistakes and become a better person. That’s what truly matters.

Why You Should Let Go Of Things

It’s hard to let go of the past. I know. I’ve been there. I’ve had terrible things happen to me that have left me scarred, angry, resentful and just downright upset.

But all of that does nothing to serve you. It did nothing to serve me. Until I was able to let go of things, I couldn’t mentally move on. I was living in the past. I was replaying those memories over and over again. It was like an episode of Ground Hog Day forever repeated in my mind. I couldn’t move on from that until I decided to let go.

However, that decision didn’t come easy. There was a process involved. And it’s not something unique to me. It’s very duplicatable. Anyone can do it as long as you’re committed to the process. You can’t just go at this half-heartedly. If you don’t value the sanctity of your peace of mind, then you likely will never let go of things. Instead, you’ll harbor one grudge after another and allow hate and negativity and resentment to consume you. That’s not living. That’s only existing. If you truly want to live, you absolutely have to let go. Life is too short to let things weigh you down.

The truth is that you will never find peace by holding on to the past. You will never break free of the weight of the world that’s resting on your shoulders if you don’t allow love and gratitude to enter your heart. When you find that inner critic hard at work, criticizing yourself and everyone around you, pay careful attention to that conversation. Then, once you hear it, you have to let it go and release it. Imagine those feelings of ill-will, resent and guilt as if they were being carried away on a hot air balloon towards outer space.

Then, as they disappear into the the clouds, allow those feelings to fly away with them, letting go forever.

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