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The health benefits of forgiveness by Mason Turner, MD

How do you define forgiveness?

Forgiveness is acknowledging that there’s been an offense committed against you and then choosing to let go of resentment you may feel towards the person or persons who hurt you. Forgiveness is not saying it was OK — it’s figuring out how to move on.

This can be simply deciding not to fume about someone cutting you off in traffic, or something more complicated, such as forgiving a spouse who was unfaithful.

What are some of the benefits of forgiving?

First, consider the costs of not forgiving. Not forgiving someone often leads to hostility towards that person, and your anger and bitterness can seep into other parts of your life. Hostility keeps levels of the stress hormone cortisol elevated in your body, which can trigger a whole range of bad outcomes, including high blood pressure, immune system issues and a tendency to gain weight.

Holding on to hostility also has psychological consequences. It can keep you feeling like a victim, prevent you from moving past a trauma, and lead to anxiety and depression.

Conversely, there’s strong research demonstrating that engaging in forgiveness reduces the cortisol circulating in your body, leading to many benefits, including lower blood pressure, cholesterol and heart attack risk, and better sleep. Forgiveness also helps you to regulate your stress response and reduce your overall level of anxiety and depression.

There’s also research showing that forgiveness increases happiness in the relationship where you offered forgiveness and beyond. I think this is because forgiveness often requires soul searching, and that process can help you be more present in other relationships.

How do you see the forgiveness process?

It can be easy to forgive someone quickly for a small offense, but if someone has committed a serious offense against you, the process may take months or even years. It’s not the act of saying words of forgiveness that is beneficial, it’s the intention behind the words.

Before you can forgive, it’s important to have processed or reflected on the offense. What happened, how did it make you feel, and how has the anger or hurt you’ve experienced affected you since?

It can be helpful to try to empathize. If you can put yourself in the shoes of the person who hurt you, you may better understand why they did what they did. This doesn’t excuse the offense or the offender, but it can help you see the person more as a human being who made a mistake.

Acknowledging that you have sometimes hurt other people and have been forgiven can also help you learn to forgive others.

What are some of the challenges of forgiving?

Forgiveness can be tough. You can go through the steps, but actually feeling real forgiveness can be extraordinarily difficult.

The good news is that forgiveness is a practice, so the more you practice the better you get. And the research is clear that forgiving someone can help you move on to live a happier, healthier life.

Ref:. https://wa-health.kaiserpermanente.org

Forgiveness Affirmations to Lift the Weight Off

Forgiveness is often defined as an individual, voluntary internal process of letting go of feelings and thoughts of resentment, bitterness, anger, and the need for vengeance and retribution toward someone who we believe has wronged us, including ourselves.

Here are some affirmations to help wash away the pain of resentment to a more loving, fresher, cleaner and joyful life.

  1. I am free from the prison of resentment.
  2. Resentment replicates old turmoil and I choose my life to be drama free.
  3. I do not confuse people from my past with people in the present.
  4. I acknowledge my faults and forgive myself completely.
  5. I make peace (inside) with anyone who has done wrong.
  6. Forgiveness is a gift to myself.
  7. I follow the principle of “live and let live.”
  8. My parents did the best they could. I forgive them for any wrong that they unknowingly did and forgive myself for holding a grudge against them.
  9. When I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others.
  10. Forgiveness gives me a fresh start and a clean slate.
  11. I forgive to stop the negative karmic cycle in my life.
  12. Each day is filled with new possibilities.
  13. Today is the first day of the rest of my life.
  14. The past is done. I now live in the present.
  15. I am the architect of my future.
  16. I am a pioneer of the future and not a prisoner of the past.
  17. I am forgiving, loving, gentle and kind to everyone.
  18. I lay down the heavy weight of doubt, shame, guilt, embarrassment and self-hate.
  19. Intention is my catalyst for my ideal future.
  20. I am capable of moving beyond my own mistakes.
  21. I am able to heal from the hurt of my past.
  22. I am worthy of all the compassion and kindness in the world.
  23. I forgive myself one day at a time.
  24. I release the pain of anger and rage from my body.
  25. I release my past and forgive my participation in it.
  26. I accept my past and learn from it.
  27. I practice understanding and compassion.
  28. I did the best I could at the time with what I knew.
  29. I have the courage to heal any wound.
  30. I will treat myself with love and respect.
  31. I love myself and all that I am.
  32. I go with the flow.
  33. I grow more patient and understanding of others by forgiving myself.
  34. I cease all self-judgement and self-sabotage.
  35. I the energy of love and forgiveness to surround me.
  36. I grow stronger and better every day.
  37. I forgive so that I can have inner peace.
  38. I can only help others by forgiving myself.
  39. Understanding is the highest form of love.
  40. Old, negative patterns no longer hold me back. I let them go with ease.
  41. I forgive everyone in my past for all perceived wrongs. I send them loving energy and wash it out of my aura.
  42. All is love.
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