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Category: Past

Letting Go of the Past

Today we are going to look at affirmations to help us let go of the past and move on. The past is over and done and cannot be changed. This – the here and now – is the only moment we can experience.

Even when we lament about the past, we are experiencing our memory of it in this moment, and losing the real experience of this moment in the process.

Many people come to me and say they cannot enjoy today because of something that happened in the past. Because they did not do something or do it in a certain way in the past, they cannot live a full life today.

Because they no longer have something they had in the past, they cannot enjoy today. Because they were hurt in the past, they will not accept love now, and so on. These negative statements simply keep them powerless to live their lives in the here and now.

Here are some more specific examples. Do any of them resonate with you?

  • Because I did not get invited to the high school prom, I cannot enjoy life today.
  • Because I did poorly at my first audition, I will be terrified of auditions forever.
  • Because I am no longer married, I cannot live a full life today.
  • Because I was hurt by a remark once, I will never trust anyone again.
  • Because I stole something once, I must punish myself forever.
  • Because I was poor as a child, I will never get anywhere.

What we often refuse to realize is that holding on to the past – no matter what it was or how awful it was – is only hurting us. “They” really don’t care. Usually, “they” are not even aware. We are only hurting ourselves by refusing to live in this moment to the fullest.

Let us now clean up the past in our minds. We need to release the emotional attachment to it. Allow the memories to be just memories. If you think back to what you used to wear in the third grade, usually
there is no emotional attachment. It’s just a memory. It can be the same for all of the past events in our lives. As we let go, we become free to use all of our mental power to enjoy this moment and to
create a great future.

You don’t have to keep punishing yourself for the past.

  • List all of the things you’re willing to let go of.
  • How willing are you to let go? Notice your reactions, and write them down.
  • What will you have to do to let these things go? How willing are you to do so?
  • For each thing you wrote down on your list, write a positive affirmation to help you release it.

Exercise: Letting Go

You will remember this exercise from day 4; at this stage of your development, letting go is a crucial exercise to release your negative thoughts. It takes a little practice for the routine to become a part of you.

We’re going to go through it once more now, but you should repeat this exercise whenever thoughts of difficulty come up. You will be able to relax completely in any situation.

As you read this, take a deep breath and, as you exhale, allow all the tension to leave your body. Let your scalp and your forehead and your face relax. Your head does not need to be tense in order for you to read. Let your tongue and your throat and your shoulders relax. You can hold a book with relaxed arms and hands.

Do that now. Let your back and your abdomen and your pelvis relax. Let your breathing be at peace as you relax your legs and feet.

Is there a big change in your body since you began the previous paragraph? Notice how much you hold on. If you are doing it with your body, you are doing it with your mind.

In this relaxed, comfortable position, say to yourself, “I am willing to let go. I release. I let go. I release all tension. I release all fear. I release all anger. I release all guilt. I release all sadness. I let go of all old limitations.

I let go, and I am at peace. I am at peace with myself. I am at peace with the process of life. I am safe.”

Exercise: Physical Releasing

Sometimes we need to experience a physical letting go. Experiences and emotions can get locked in the body. Screaming in the car with all the windows rolled up can be very releasing if we have been stifling our verbal expression. Beating the bed or kicking pillows is another harmless way to release pent-up anger or frustration. If you feel embarrassed or inhibited by the idea of expressing yourself so physically, say to yourself:

“I give myself permission to acknowledge my feelings and release past experiences.” Or if this is really not your style, play a sport such as tennis, or go running. A while ago, I had a pain in my shoulder for a day or two. I tried to ignore it, but it wouldn’t go away. Finally, I sat down and asked myself, “What is happening here? What am I feeling?”

I realized, “It feels like burning. Burning … burning … that means anger.

What are you angry about?”

I couldn’t think of what I was angry about, so I said, “Well, let’s see if we can find out.” I put two large pillows on the bed and began to hit them with a lot of energy.

After about twelve hits, I realized exactly what I was angry about. It was so clear. So I beat the pillows even harder and made some noise and released the emotions from my body. When I got through, I felt much better, and the next day my shoulder was fine.

Affirmations for Letting Go of the Past:

Make these affirmations part of your daily routine. Say them often in the car, at work, while looking in the mirror, or anytime you feel your negative beliefs surfacing.

  • The past is over and cannot be changed. This is the only moment I can experience.
  • I now choose to release every negative, destructive, fearful idea and thought from my mind and my life.
  • It is healing to show my emotions. It is safe for me to be vulnerable.
  • I release the need to blame anyone, including myself.
  • My heart is open. I am willing to release all resistance.
  • I now release anger in positive ways. I love and appreciate myself.
  • I move beyond old limitations and now express myself freely and creatively.
  • I am willing to release the need to be unworthy. I am becoming all that I am destined to be.
  • It is safe for me to go beyond my parents’ limitations. I am free to be me.
  • I release all struggle now, and I am at peace.
  • I release any limitations based on old, negative thoughts. I joyfully look forward to the future.
  • I say “Out!’ to every negative thought about the past that comes into my mind.
  • I release any feelings of competition or comparison from the past.

Ref:. Louise L. Hay – 21 Days Affirmations

Leave The Past Behind So You Can Move Into The Future

We should all be grateful for our past. The good times and especially the challenging times, because all of it formed who we are today.

Be grateful for the hard times in your past, grateful for the lessons, grateful for the strength it gave you. Then, DECIDE that your FUTURE is more important. Let go of any negativity towards your past, people or events, and FOCUS on building your greatest ever future.

Leave the past behind so you can FOCUS on your FUTURE. Die to the past. So you can live fully now.

You must let go of your past pain. Your struggle. Your story. Not because it wasn’t important. But because your FUTURE… your LIFE is MORE important.

You see, you can’t CHANGE your past. Holding on to grudges will NEVER get you where you want to be.
Holding on to something you can’t change is INSANITY. Let go of it, so you can LIVE.
You see, I could have focused on all that was wrong with my life.
I could have played the victim card.
I had every right to curse the world for putting me in this position. For placing me in this neighborhood.
Why should I rough it out and others live in luxury.
Why should I suffer and others live free.
Why should I be homeless while others take for granted the roof over their heads.

But I believe I needed to see all of that, to go through all of that, to become the human I am today.

I chose not to be defined by my circumstances, but defined by my attitude towards beating my circumstances.
DEFINED by my ability to RISE above.

RISE above generations of limitation and lack!
RISE above lack of ambition around me!
RISE above negativity!
RISE above everything!

You see, I believe God only gives us what we have the strength to overcome.
I believe God only gives us what we need to become STRONG.

The pain I’ve been through,
The struggle I’ve been through,
It was all needed for me to be here today!

You can’t feel for others at rock bottom if you haven’t been there yourself.
You can’t  have courage if You haven’t had to FIGHT through your fears.
You can’t have strength if you haven’t had to get up time and time again from when life beats you down.
You can’t have compassion without suffering.
You can’t help others if you haven’t felt helpless.

I CHOSE TO LEAVE MY PAST BEHIND!
I DECIDED MY FUTURE WAS MORE IMPORTANT THAN HOLDING ON
THAN SAYING WHY ME

WHY ME?
NO… NO!
I SAY TRY ME!

Life tested me and I won.
Life will be back. Life will test me again.
But I now know I have the strength to overcome.

YOU CAN NOT WRITE THE NEXT CHAPTER OF YOUR LIFE IF YOU KEEP RE READING THE FIRST ONE.

The first one is no good compared to the rest!

YOU ARE THE AUTHOR OF YOUR STORY
DON’T LET OTHERS HOLD THE PEN
DON’T LET YOUR PAST PUBLISH YOUR BOOK
THIS IS YOUR STORY!
BE BRAVE WHEN WRITING YOUR STORY

DREAM BIG, KNOW YOU ARE STRONG, SO MUCH STRONGER THAN YOU GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT FOR LEAVING THE PAST BEHIND.

LEAVE the darkness of your past behind. So you can focus on letting in the light of your future. Your bright future.

Ref:. https://www.fearlessmotivation.com

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