A Course in Forgiveness by Gerald Crawford

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Category: Honesty

Respect give value to someones ideals

Respect is defined as to feel or show esteem or honor for someone or something.

  • An example of respect is being quiet in a cathedral.
  • An example of respect is truly listening to someone speak.
  • An example of respect is walking around, rather than through, protected wilderness.

Respect is a deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.


Respecting yourself means giving and defining your own worth and value as a human being. Think about this: if you do not respect yourself, it will be more difficult for you to respect anyone else. So it all begins with self-respect.

Respect for Others

Just like with yourself, when you demonstrate respect for others, you give value to their being and ideals. In addition, you’ll make someone feel good by granting them respect, provided, of course, that it’s something that they deserve.

One of the best ways to show respect for someone is to truly listen to another’s point of view. Obviously, we’ll not always agree with one another on every topic (and you should never adopt a point of view with which you do not agree), but we should allow each other to have and express our own views – regardless of whether we agree with them or not.

How Do We Show Respect For Others?

  • Listen. Listening to what another person has to say is a basic way to respect them.
  • Affirm. When we affirm someone, we’re giving evidence that they matter.
  • Serve.
  • Be Kind.
  • Be Polite.
  • Be Thankful.

Why is respect important?

  • Receiving respect from others is important because it helps us to feel safe and to express ourselves.
  • Being respected by important people in our lives growing up teaches us how to be respectful toward others.
  • Respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they’re different from you or you don’t agree with them.
  • Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing.
  • Respect doesn’t have to come naturally – it is something you learn.

To disrespect someone is to act in an insulting way toward them. When you disrespect people, you think very little of them.

Disrespect is all about not showing respect. Actually, it’s about showing the opposite of respect, by acting rude, impolite, and offensive.

Embrace your dark times and make it a Testimony of Balance

Its important to change from a victim into a victor.

In a universe that’s an intelligent system with a divine creative force supporting it, there simply can be no accidents. As tough as it is to acknowledge, you had to go through what you went through in order to get to where you are today, and the evidence is that you did. Every spiritual advance that you will make in your life will very likely be preceded by some kind of fall or seeming disaster. Those dark times, accidents, tough episodes, break ups, periods of impoverishment, illnesses, abuses, and broken dreams were all in order. They happened, so you can assume they had to and you can’t un-happen them.

Embrace them from that perspective, and then understand them, accept them, honor them, and finally transform them.

Have you heard of the classic victim versus victor mindset? If you haven’t, you need to. This mental attitude consists of two separate and opposite mindsets, recognition of which can help you attain your goals and feel fulfilled in your personal and professional lives.

Having a classic victor inclination helps you create an easy integration of your work-lifestyle balance and reinforce a positive outlook in life. On the other hand, having a classic victim disposition creates a negative outlook on life and deepens your work-lifestyle imbalance. Recognizing these two different mindsets will help you focus on the internal work needed to quit making excuses and look for extrinsic motivations. If you’re feeling out of balance and unfulfilled, it may be your fault.

In order to understand the importance of the classic victim versus victor mindset, let’s use a coin as a metaphor. One side of the coin, which is bright and shiny, represents the classic victor mindset. The other side, dark and tarnished, represents the classic victim mindset.

If you are not in control of your life, then you’re, in essence, just flipping a coin in order to determine your life outcomes. Maybe it will land as bright and shiny, maybe not. Only you have the power to avoid such a coin flip and make sure your life stays on the right side. The classic victor, with her in-the-moment attitude, focuses on the positive and systematic pursuit of consistent short- and long-term goals.

So, where do you start in order to stop being the classic victim? Start by becoming aware of your personal, internal dialog: the silent conversation all of us have inside our head every day. Then comes categorization. Which of your thoughts are positive? Which are negative? If you’ve never kept track before, do so now, and I think you’ll be surprised at how often you’re concerned about the dark and tarnished and not the bright and shiny.

The classic victim’s behavior often includes the following:

• Constant excuses and complaints

• False blames and promises

• Fear of making mistakes and commitments

• Belief in quick shortcuts and outcomes

• Lost resources of time and energy

• Learning without applying new knowledge

• Lack of self-confidence and self-efficacy

On the other hand, the classic victor’s behavior usually includes:

• Constant motivation and goal setting

• Honoring impeccable values and promises

• Overcoming fears and obstacles

• Implementing effective solutions and productivity

• Focusing on progress and time management

• Growing by using new knowledge

• Following through to goal completion

If you choose to positively influence your thoughts and reinforce the behavior of a victor, you are progressing, not regressing in life.

We can be aided in this analysis by another metaphor. Let’s think of your thoughts as involving hardware and software. The hardware is, of course, your brain. The software is what you run through your brain in the form of conscious and unconscious thoughts. This software runs thousands of thoughts through our brain each day, 90% of which come from the past – for one with a classic victim mindset, probably even more.

By managing your internal dialog, you can stay motivated and guarantee that bright and shiny life outcome. If you don’t manage your internal dialogue, you almost guarantee a lack of motivation and achievement.

So, each day, ask yourself this question: Will this bring balance into my life and balance into the peoples lives around me?

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